As a freshman in college I made a pact with my girls to steer clear of jerks. I’d heard too many stories about the buck wild sex that occurred during Creeping Hour. Being away from your strict mami while living with boys (on the same floor!) for the first time ever can make a young and impressionable woman do thangs. Fortunately, I kept my cool and some of my integrity that first year. (We will not speak of the later years – especially my junior year!) What I didn’t do, however, was keep my promise. As much as I tried to date nice guys, I ended up dating jerks. One jerk in particular. He was the baddest of them all. And I was so hooked that I even rejected a really nice guy to be with my Big Bad Jerk.
Why Was I Dating Jerks?
Even now at 43 years young, I can’t wrap my head around his allure. What was I thinking, rejecting a nice guy who would have committed to me and only me? My nice guy wasn’t only sweet, kind, and respectful, but he was also HOT. Like, so good looking. I wish I could add a pic of him right underneath this paragraph, but he’s married with children now and I have to be respectful. Luckily, I can still stalk him on the ‘Gram.
Yes, even in mid-life I have this regret. Because, although things happen for a reason and I ended up where I was supposed to (as a mom to my bub, Evan), I still wonder what could have been if I stopped dating jerks. I would probably be married by now. Maybe not to My Nice Guy, but definitely to a nice guy. If I would have stopped dating jerks, I may be sipping a Moscow Mule while writing this blog because Nice Guy Husband supports my writing career. Instead, I’m a single mom that works a full-time job, writes part time, and side hustles like her future mortgage depends on it (cause it does). I work from 9am – 5pm and then from 5pm – 8pm even when exhausted. All because I dated jerks!
The Reason We’re Dating Jerks
There is a reason, aside from possible dickmitization. According to a few scientific studies, here’s why women date jerks and reject nice guys.